Thursday, June 5, 2008

What's he got?

K. was in the cart. She must have been about three years old at the time. We were in a large department store. I was in the hardware section searching for who knows what. I couldn't find whatever it was that I was looking for. I looked up and there coming toward me was a gangly teenage male store employee. He was the epitome of awkward; about seventeen years of age, slumped shoulders, no confidence in his hesitant shuffle, greasy longish dark hair, eyes looking downward .. . . "Excuse me sir, do you know where I can find the xxx?" Before he could even answer, K. sees something she is unfamiliar with . . . . . Out of curiosity she began her inquisition in an innocent, loud, three year oldish voice. "Mom, what's he got all over his face?" No reply from me. I was flabbergasted and embarrassed; for me and for the kid. Since she didn't get an answer her question became more insistent . . . "Mom, what's he got all over his face?" She wouldn't let up. "What's he got all over his face?" "Thank you for your help sir." I turned the cart and began to explain in a normal tone of voice, "Oh, that's a thing called acne . . . .some kids get it when they get to be teenagers . . . . . ."

Does anyone know how I could have / should have responded?? Sometimes that scene replays itself in my head and I still don't know the answer. None of the parenting books I had ever read prepared me for how to handle a situation like that. I felt so darn bad for that kid. I wished I knew how I could have handled it more gracefully.

4 comments:

Fned said...

Opppss! Makes me glad I'm not a mom yet. I don't know how I would have responded but I usually tend to make a pathetic joke when I'm stuck in an embarrasing situation.

I would have probably said something to the guy like "Excuse the kid. She's being raised by my ex's new wife and as you can see she's trying to get back at me!". Not very classy but yet...

Anyway, don't be too hard on yourself. I too suffered from acne all through my highschool and college years and still I would have probably had enough common sense in me to take it for what it was: an adorable 3 year-old asking an innocent question. I'm sure he did too.

Fned.

Mamacita Chilena said...

Oh my god, Fned, I love your sense of humor!!!!

Mom, that would have been the perfect response :)

But, like Fned said, hopefully he wasn't too terribly offended...

Rachel said...

You did exactly what I do in those situations. Mr. Pimples will remember this when his child is saying something embarrassing to someone else...and he will react in the same way....and on and on and on.
ahhhh the (not so) refreshing honesty of kids!

Ritamae said...

fned,

I never think that fast in those situations . . but yeah, that would have been a really funny response.


Rachel,

Yes by now Mr. Pimples has probably overcome his inferiority complex, dated, wed and has a few kids of his own who say/do embarassing things so if he even remembers that fateful day, he has probably forgiven that innocent 3 year old.